Is there any type of etiquette concerning PMs that I'm not aware of?
The reason I ask is this:I have a pet-peeve about them,I HATE it when they're not returned in a timely fashion.If I send someone a PM,and it's not replied to within a certain time,I start to get annoyed.If the person I sent the message to remains online the whole time,I get really annoyed.
My annoyance is in direct proportion to the content/seriousness of the PM.
Am I being out of line on this?Is there a code of ethics I don't know about?
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#1
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 11:29 AM
I got everything I need....almost...
"I was growing sick of rock and roll, it was starting to bore me...and I hated disco, so I needed some place to go. I hadn't heard much blues before. It felt good."-John Belushi
(Still inspiring me--and knowing me like a book)
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"I was growing sick of rock and roll, it was starting to bore me...and I hated disco, so I needed some place to go. I hadn't heard much blues before. It felt good."-John Belushi
(Still inspiring me--and knowing me like a book)
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000330323262
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 12:26 PM
In general, people should return PMs or e-mails, if nothing else but to acknowledge receipt. If they can't answer them, at least they should say "Sorry, but I don't know what to say."
The problem is that sometimes e-mails/pms don't get through, or that pop-up notification doesn't come up. Or maybe they appear to be signed on, but they aren't (I can't tell you how many times I have come to the home page to find myself already "on" - when I haven't been for a really long time).
Then there are the times when I am logged in, but really am not available to chat or write notes online (ie., at work).
If you sent someone a PM/e-mail and didn't hear back in a reasonable amount of time (2 days?) then resend with a note asking if they got it.
The problem is that sometimes e-mails/pms don't get through, or that pop-up notification doesn't come up. Or maybe they appear to be signed on, but they aren't (I can't tell you how many times I have come to the home page to find myself already "on" - when I haven't been for a really long time).
Then there are the times when I am logged in, but really am not available to chat or write notes online (ie., at work).
If you sent someone a PM/e-mail and didn't hear back in a reasonable amount of time (2 days?) then resend with a note asking if they got it.
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 03:08 PM
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...pop-up notification doesn't come up. Or maybe they appear to be signed on, but they aren't..
Jo_ hit the nail on the head! I sometimes get a pop up notifier and sometimes I don't. I'll just happen to glance up and see a message waiting and it may have been there 3 days!
Then I feel awful...
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 08:34 PM
not every one is on every day . and some people who ever they might be might just not want to ansewer them , for what ever reason , i dont think its any thing personel
" Just trying to make everyone feel welcome " !
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Just keep on pushing hard boy, try as you may
You're going to wind up where you started from "
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Just keep on pushing hard boy, try as you may
You're going to wind up where you started from "
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 11:27 PM
It bugs me too, man.
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Posted 19 February 2009 - 01:49 AM
I sometimes only have time to login to the forum and have a quick read through the latest posts, do a quick bit of moderation/administration/maintenance then log out again without replying to anything. It doesn't bug me when people take a while to reply, but then I rarely message people on here, usually it's people messaging me.
I always get a popup notifier, but sometimes I have PM's I don't have time to reply to so I mark them as unread again (and that way I remember to come back to them). Usually they involve some kind of research, I've sometimes spent 20 minutes writing a reply to a PM because it was too complicated.
I always get a popup notifier, but sometimes I have PM's I don't have time to reply to so I mark them as unread again (and that way I remember to come back to them). Usually they involve some kind of research, I've sometimes spent 20 minutes writing a reply to a PM because it was too complicated.
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Posted 19 February 2009 - 09:42 AM
Wait a minute...
all this talk of PMs... I realize my peeps haven't sent me one in a long time.
Aw, come on Blue... Vin... Syd... Where's the love?
all this talk of PMs... I realize my peeps haven't sent me one in a long time.
Aw, come on Blue... Vin... Syd... Where's the love?
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Posted 19 February 2009 - 11:08 PM
RIGHT HERE! *hugs*
joking, of course.
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Posted 19 February 2009 - 11:28 PM
Jo_Pierce said:
Wait a minute...
all this talk of PMs... I realize my peeps haven't sent me one in a long time.
Aw, come on Blue... Vin... Syd... Where's the love?
all this talk of PMs... I realize my peeps haven't sent me one in a long time.
Aw, come on Blue... Vin... Syd... Where's the love?
If I send you one,how quickly would I get a response?
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I got everything I need....almost...
"I was growing sick of rock and roll, it was starting to bore me...and I hated disco, so I needed some place to go. I hadn't heard much blues before. It felt good."-John Belushi
(Still inspiring me--and knowing me like a book)
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000330323262
"I was growing sick of rock and roll, it was starting to bore me...and I hated disco, so I needed some place to go. I hadn't heard much blues before. It felt good."-John Belushi
(Still inspiring me--and knowing me like a book)
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000330323262
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Posted 20 February 2009 - 05:42 PM
You can always check the box for a read reciept. That way you'll get a PM letting you know that your message has been read, and that way you can at least know it was acknowledged. That said, nobody is obligated to reply to PMs. I only generally reply when I have something to reply with. Like faving without commenting (on DA, FF.net, etc.), it's not a big evil to remain silent.
Although I think what would be really rude is to have an auto reply that says something like, "I'm too busy and important to reply to your meaningless drivel. F*CK OFF."
Although I think what would be really rude is to have an auto reply that says something like, "I'm too busy and important to reply to your meaningless drivel. F*CK OFF."
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Posted 20 February 2009 - 07:45 PM
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If I send you one,how quickly would I get a response?
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Oh, I didn't say I would respond. I just wanted my peeps to share the love.
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Posted 20 February 2009 - 07:58 PM
Tsk tsk Elwood...haven't you figured it out yet??
She's the Queen and we're the drones!! I mean look how big she is now thanks to our nurturing!
She's the Queen and we're the drones!! I mean look how big she is now thanks to our nurturing!
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Posted 20 February 2009 - 08:12 PM
Blueblood said:
Tsk tsk Elwood...haven't you figured it out yet??
She's the Queen and we're the drones!! I mean look how big she is now thanks to our nurturing!
She's the Queen and we're the drones!! I mean look how big she is now thanks to our nurturing!
I got everything I need....almost...
"I was growing sick of rock and roll, it was starting to bore me...and I hated disco, so I needed some place to go. I hadn't heard much blues before. It felt good."-John Belushi
(Still inspiring me--and knowing me like a book)
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000330323262
"I was growing sick of rock and roll, it was starting to bore me...and I hated disco, so I needed some place to go. I hadn't heard much blues before. It felt good."-John Belushi
(Still inspiring me--and knowing me like a book)
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000330323262
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Posted 20 February 2009 - 08:22 PM
uh...no.
Queen, feelin' the love.
Cue Barry White...
Queen, feelin' the love.
Cue Barry White...
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Posted 20 February 2009 - 09:22 PM
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She's not going to start smacking me with a ruler,is she?http://www.bluesbrotherscentral.com/forum2/public/style_emoticons/default/icon_cool.gif
I am so ok with that.
joking, of course.
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Posted 02 May 2009 - 03:26 PM
Ha :D i absolutely HATE it when people are online and don't write me back :O but then, when people write me, i usually don't see it..
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Posted 02 May 2009 - 09:45 PM
I would hate that too, if anyone wrote to me.
joking, of course.
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Posted 03 May 2009 - 09:16 AM
haha nobody writes me either, so i don't really get mad (:
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Posted 03 May 2009 - 11:36 PM
can't get mad, if no mail..
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